Enjoy Not Knowing

Just another American living in Sweden


5 years

I was once asked, while sipping wine in the warm Spanish evening, how I knew I had found the one.

A smile made its way across my face, as I replied:

It’s like I’ve found this person. I am hers, and she I mine. And everything else in the world, all the noise, it will settle down. It will resolve. There’s no need to think or worry about that. Because, forever, there will be us.

there will be us

Looking back on that night, first, I think that was a damn good answer. Second, I think what I have found is peace. In this person I have now been with for five years. I have found my peace, my missing piece. Happy fifth anniversary dear.



outdoor concerts

I want to talk about outdoor concerts. I’m not going to say it again, but you all know why this is coming. Summer nights outside listening to live music is a quite excellent way to pass the time. Especially if you’re in Sweden, where the sun never sets, and you’re at the concert for free.

Swedes are ALL FOR free stuff. They almost expect it, which I really hope doesn’t mean that they don’t appreciate it. In Sweden you can go to concerts for free in the summer…and you can have free money. (I mentioned this before, and one day, I promise, you’ll get to hear more about it.)

Well my first trip ever to Sweden encompassed a series of free concerts on an island in the city I was visiting. (Reason number 109 I moved to Sweden.) This past summer Evelina and I went to a concert on that same island. A fair had come to town, and with it a musical event!

outdoor concerts

I don’t need to tell you again, but I will, I can’t wait for summer!


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you win some, you lose some, you eat cookies

I hope you have been celebrating advent. This past Sunday was the second. So that means two candles have been lit. If you’re not familiar with the concept, every Sunday before Christmas you light one candle, and all the candles you’ve previously lit. That’s about it. Not too complicated.

Here in Sweden we did it Swedish style. Evelina and I were at our friend Johanna’s place for första advent (the first Sunday). After lighting the first candle we enjoyed lussekatter, pepparkakor and glögg. Lussekatter are saffron buns with raisins, pepparkakor are gingerbread cookies, and glögg is spiced wine (varieties with and without alcohol) you drop peeled almonds and raisins in the wine to make it extra tasty.

Second advent was a little less celebratory on our part, as we played a hockey game in Uppsala. Which we lost. I’m done talking about it. I’m over it. Whatever. We did light the candles again at least.

I recommend spending your advent how Evelina, Johanna and I did our first Sunday. Cozy warm, inside, with friends and treats.

Now, an instructive photograph:

an advent how to

an advent how to